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The History of Cock Sucking

Giving head has a long history. Whether it has been a taboo or not, the men have loved it, and there have always been ways to make receiving it possible.

The earliest recorded blowjob is documented in the Osiris myth around the 24th century BCE. In the myth Isis, Osiris’ sister and wife, finds her husband murdered and chopped into pieces by Set. Isis recollects his body parts and reassembles him. Unfortunately she is unable to find his penis. Thus she makes a penis from clay for him, places it into his crotch and resurrects him by “blowing the life into him” by sucking it.

In the ancient Rome, blowjobs were considered impure and dirty, and it was absolutely not acceptable that a Roman woman would perform a fellatio. It was believed that bad smelling breath was caused by oral sex, and thus anyone with a bad breath was frowned upon and not allowed to sit in the same table with the others while eating. However, regardless of it being a taboo, the Roman men loved blowjobs and deepthroat face fucking, which was called irrumatio in Latin. As it was impossible to perform this with the Roman women, they used slaves or went to a brothel (of which workers were usually slaves, of course).

A wealthy Roman man usually had several slaves, who had sexual obligations to their masters in addition to their their regular work duties. Irrumatio was also used as a punishment. If a slave girl owned by some other man caused trouble to some man, instead of killing or beating her (which of course would have resulted into monetary compensation to the master), she was irrumated – throat fucked – and returned to his master, who then probably gave her another punishment such as irrumating her again.

Nubian girls were favored as pleasure slaves by the Egyptians, the Romans and later by the Arabs, because of their exotic and mystical beauty. They were said to “seduce any man with their hazel-nut shaped eyes, flawless skin and luscious lips”, and that “a [Nubian] girl smearing man’s penis with oil and giving her mouth to it, makes a man naugh like a horny donkey, losing all his dignity”.

In the image: Nubian women were considered beautiful, exotic and erotic.

According to Roman and Greek text material, oral sex was practiced more freely in the city of Pompeii and on the island of Lesbos. In fact, the women of Lesbos had such a reputation in cock sucking (and also oral sex in general) that during the 3rd century BC some began to call fellatio lesbiari, which can translated “doing the Lesbos thing”. Some Romans believed, the eruption of Vesuvius and the destruction of Pompeii was a punishment of their unacceptable sex life, which included lots of cock sucking, anal sex and big sex orgies. Lately excavated frescos from Pompeii have a vivid depictions of these activities.

In the image: Pompeiian fresco.

In the Ancient Greece, cock sucking was referred as playing the flute, and it was not frowned upon similarly as it was in Rome. Greek men did not only practice it with the women, but also with other straight men, as well as their students if they happened to have them. There was a saying: “you make love with women, but have fun with men”. Normally these men were younger and hairless, and thus considered yet as “real men”.

The Indian elite men loved blowjobs, and they had numerous servant girls and eunuchs dressed as females in their harems just for that purpose. According to the Indians, the women of Saketa were natural born cock suckers, who didn’t hesitate to use their mouths to please men. The original Kama Sutra has an entire chapter of giving head. The blowjob was divided into eight parts, of which each must be performed as long as the man wants:

1) The blowjob begins from taking the cock into hand and moving the lips around his cock.

2) When given a permission, the next phase includes using lips and teeth to gently “press the sides” of the cock.

3) Next, the cock is taken into mouth and slided in and out with tense lips. This was called the “outside pressing”.

4) When asked to do so, the cock will now be taken deeper into the mouth, using lips to press the shaft along the way it goes in and out.

5) Next, the head of the cock is kissed passionately with lips and tongue

6) When asked, the cock is now licked wet from the shaft to the top.

7) Now, the head of the cock is taken into mouth and tongue and lips are used to intensively suck it.

8) When the master has enjoyed enough and wants to cum, he asks the sucker to swallow his cock completely. This of course means, that the cock was deepthroated until the master ejaculated into the mouth of the sucker.

In the image: An example from Kama Sutra.

Some odd, yet contradicting, beliefs were alive in the ancient China,  Early-Modern Europe and among some indigenous tribes of Papua. In China, blowjobs were accepted and not considered as a taboo, but ejaculating into someone’s mouth was strictly forbidden, as it was believed to weaken the man “through giving away is life-force”. This similar belief was alive in Europe, where ejaculation was strictly forbidden unless it was meant to impregnate your wife. However, in Papua, it was believed (and still is among some tribes), that the fertility is only acquired by ingesting semen. The more you swallow it, the more children you will have in the future.

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TRANS WOMEN: HERE'S SOME SHIT YOUR DOCTOR WONT TELL YOU ABOUT HRT

1. Progesterone: not for everyone, but for many people it may increase sex drive and WILL make your boobs bigger. Also effects mood in ways that many find positive (but some find negative). Most doctors won’t prescribe this to you unless you ask. Most trans girls I know swear by it.

2. Injectible estrogen: is more effective than pill or patch form. Get on it if you can bear needles bc you will see more effects more quickly.

3. Estradiol Cypionate: There is currently a shortage of injectible estradiol valerate. There is no shortage of estradiol cypionate. Functionally they do the same shit.

4. Bicalutamide: This is an anti-androgen that has almost none of the side-effects of spironolactone or finasteride. The girls I know who are on it are evangelical about it.

lol “HRT slightly increases the risk of certain cancers” HRT could have caused me to guaranteed drop dead at 30 and it still would have gotten me eight more years than I would otherwise have had

Sex Ed Time

ok I'm gonna tell you about some things that might happen if you are transitioning m->f. this is not a comprehensive list just my own experience, be sure to do your own research I just really wanted to voice how this affects me because I think open discussion about this type of stuff is just more helpful for everyone rather than keeping it private

BOOBS HURT WHEN THEY GROW

your sex drive (libido) will probably go down a lot

facial hair is very hard to get rid of

my go-to gender affirming clothing is high-waisted jeans. I suggest going to a goodwill or some sort of cheap store that lets you try on clothes to figure out what you like

muscle mass will go down, fat will be redistributed

boobs do all sorts of crazy stuff when you run / exercise

overtime your skin will get softer, you also might smell nicer, and I've been told it can thin body hair but I don't really see it all that much 🤷

your brain chemistry can change when you reduce testosterone and increase estrogen, there are lots of factors that contribute toward any changes to your personality, but hormones can have an impact as well. for me this is a good thing because I struggle with allowing myself to feel emotions sometimes, no matter how hard I tried I was never really able to get myself to cry. I've gotten closer to being able to cry since I started transitioning though and that makes me very happy

this is a slow process that can take several years, ultimately you're going to be in your body for several years regardless, so if this is something you want it's definitely something you should try to pursue if possible. the time will pass anyways, and it does feel nice to work towards something that can make you happier.

also this is very important, you don't need to do any sort of hormone replacement therapy in order to be trans. not everybody can access HRT, and for those who can access it, not everybody wants to take on all the changes that come with treatments. you don't have to chemically or physically change your body in any way in order to deserve respect

all right that's all I have for right now feel free to add anything in the comments, I would especially like to hear from trans men what your experiences have been, I think openly talking about these types of things can really help some people