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As a ace/aro baby writer, I need this. Thank you 💜💚

For aro/ace writers:

- you don't have to write sex scenes. Tolkien didn't

- you don't have to write romance. Lewis didn't

- you can write very close friendships that have nothing romantic nor sexual in them. Scott Lynch did

- you can write sexual relationships that don't involve romance. Sapkowski did

- you can write romantic relationships that don't involve sex. Pratchett and Gaiman did

Don't let anyone tell you that some kinds of relationships are impossible or that a story must contain some themes. It's your story, write it the way you want

A butch wearing a “Butch Bait” shirt. Send post

idk how to say this properly as a femme, but like…..

there’s a big issue in the sapphic community of sexualizing butches in a super nonconsensual way.

my gf has been grabbed, shoved around, and groped by women who believe her very existence to be some sort of sexual invite. it’s gotten to the point that when we enter a gay space together, i have to be all over her, or else someone assumes something. she says she’s scared of giving compliments or being nice to women because it’s immediately taken as an aggressive come on.

and this isn’t just a straight women thing, i’ve seen SO MANY sapphic women pull this shit. online too. like, butches posting a non-sexual selfie and getting flooded with super intense sexual comments.

you’re being a creep. knock it the fuck off.

best thing about being a lesbian who loves male characters is when i feel them getting too flawed i can just imagine them as butches and i’m suddenly okay with all of their faults

why do i keep finding so many radfem/terf/etc takes in the he/him lesbian and lesboy tags? if you hate us so much, pls ignore us. your weird ass take about why i can’t be a he/him butch bc it’s actually just ‘internalized misogyny’ is not gonna rewire my brain to make me agree with you. we aren’t the ones chronically online. the butchs and he/she’s and boydykes of lesbian history can tell you that. we’ve always been here. and no, i won’t elaborate, bc you used your own brain to read this. use your brain to research.