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Bukan afirmasi

1. Aku memaafkan mereka dan kejadian yg menimpaku kemarin: boundariesku diintervensi orang terdekatku, dosa-dosa orang tuaku di masa lampau, sinyal hp saat pacar harus ngobrol berempat

2. Aku bisa mengutarakan keinginanku dengan lebih sopan dan hati-hati

3. Aku akan menghubungj rekan kerjaku di jam-jam sewajarnya

4. Victim mentality dan otak lemot bukan identitasku

5. Let’s focus on work + your health

6. Be the best at the office yet find better opportunities out there!

Miss you :(

Everytime I watch/listen to the ladies who successfully pursuing their goals, I always promise to myself that I am going to be like them with my own version.

im your emotional sponge

i met a girl from Bandung, named Tami. We had a good convo (i think good here bc she could absorb my feelings)

"you are a very emphatic person. Be cautious it can be your own weakness".

Somehow it's true.

And also I expect a person can respond to me as much as I do to them effortlessly. Her name is Kharis, I owe her an apology. I used her to be my emotional sponge bc she fell in love with me. it never be wise to take her for granted. I was toxic to her. She's a pure soul and deserves love (hopefully she finds someone who treats her right). If we ever meet again in another life, i won't mind being her soulmate.

let's go back to the main topic. being an emotional sponge to others means you have the skill to acknowledge their feelings. im unlearning that everyone's feelings matter since in this cruel world, boundaries should exist. you should be able to distinguish whether things are tolerable.

i am completely done with accepting that being compassionate is not a sin. i have to put in "right" amount, dont I? wont blame my placements (yes, my sun - moon - risings are all water signs), this is something i can manage to.

Here a good tip for an emotional sponge like me:

"Visualize A Glass Wall

There are a number of techniques that you can use to keep other people’s energy separate. One technique includes visualizing a glass wall between yourself and the other person. The glass wall allows you to see the other person’s emotions. However, the emotions are not able to penetrate the wall. When they hit the wall, they bounce back to the other person, not to you. You can see and acknowledge the feelings, but you do not absorb them. This technique can work in large crowds as well. You can picture yourself surrounded by a glass wall as you move through the crowd. Although you may notice their energy, you do not have to take it on as it cannot get through the wall."

Please check here if you need guidance: https://keirbradycounseling.com/empath-and-absorbing-other-peoples-emotions/

Happy Aquarius Season!

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Setelah tanya-tanya ke pramuniaga, akhirnya aku memilih varian ini. Aromanya seperti sabun Cussons dan lembut. Mungkin karena baru sehari, efek lilin inj belum begitu terasa ke produktivitas. Namun bisa aku jamin, baunya tercium hingga jarak setengah meter. Akan aku edit pos ini bila ada perubahan bau

Gue mengalokasikan energi ke hal-hal penting buat gue.

No gossiping..

No hurtful words..

No assumptions..

Be present

In 5 seconds, you can close that Instagram tab in your laptop and regain your focus back.

VATH, the focus one

Sayang, hari ini aku menemukan teman baru

Energinya bisa aku baca jelas, obrolan kami mengalir, dan maaf ada bagian darinya yang menggoda

Tapi jangan takut, kamu masih pusat gravitasiku

Sayang, tadi ia membaca tentang kita. Netral tonality-nya.

Tapi yang jelas, semoga ini membantu kita melangkah ke depannya, ya

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