Exclusionist Culture Is...

shoutout to pan, omni, ply, fluid, queer, unlabeled, and all other non-bi mspec people!

there is absolutely nothing wrong with finding a label that works for you and makes sense to you and captures how you feel about your attraction, even if it’s unknown, looked down on, a microlabel, created on tumblr, or severely misunderstood.

despite what people say, your label is not the reason people outside of the community hate us. your label does not make people think the community is a joke. the narrative that queer people with lesser known, understood, and accepted labels (microlabels, non-bi mspec labels, most aspec and non-binary labels, multiple labels, etc.) are to blame for queerphobia is simply repackaged homophobia that the community internalized.

the labels you use, or don’t use, to make sense of your feelings and experiences in good faith hurt absolutely no one and take away absolutely nothing from anyone else.

please do not let people who are taking their internalized queerphobia out on their own community shame you out of identifying in a way that feels right for you or make you question yourself and your identity.

once more, there is nothing wrong with identifying as pan, omni, ply, fluid, queer, or any other non-bi mspec labels. there is nothing wrong with being mspec, but not using any specific label.

being mspec and not using the bi label, however you decide to label or not label yourself, is not hurting anyone.

you are an important part of our community and history.

please remember that.

Honestly I think the exclusion of cis heterosexual aromantic people and cis heteroromantic asexual people gives off biphobic vibes

A biphobic argument for why bi people should be excluded (drop the B) is that we’re “basically straight”, “half straight”, “spicy straight” or “straight passing”, especially if we are binary people who prefer (or have exclusively dated) the other binary gender. The argument ignores that our sexuality is complete as it is and not half or part of something else and the struggles we specifically face for being bi and not straight (or gay).

And then I then turn around and see asexual and aromantic people having their complete orientation and specific struggles erased because they’re “basically straight”, “half straight”, “special straight” or “straight passing”... especially when many aros and aces mistook their orientation for bi or pan because they felt the same about everyone? That doesn’t sit right with me! At all!

Bi (or omni/pan/ply/abro/etc) and a-spec people what do you think about this?? I personally think we need to work on some fucking solidarity because this erasure of our sexualities isn’t okay, we have so much in common and sometimes have thought we are the other orientation or we’re a mix of both.

Don’t clown on this post if you’re a biphobe or aphobe, learn better

Married straight couples are the only heterophobes I know.

"My wife is gonna kill me if I do that!"

"Gotta go home to the ol' ball and chain."

really hate how so many people are aphobic, transphobic, etc without being OPEN about it. i just wanna follow some new people without having to search through their blog to make sure they dont hate me or other people for simply existing

So there was this really bad storm and I got a tornado warning.

Me and my family reactions is the most beautiful thing-

"I'm not going into the basement until I start hearing a frieght train."

"Zeus is angry today."

"We die, we die."

"This work letter is more scarier than the tornado."

"YAYY STORM!"

What someone says: I have romantic feelings for you

What I hear: I have decided, based on nothing that has to do with you, that you are going to solve all of my problems and make me happy forever, and when you inevitably can't do that I am going to be hurt and disappointed and maybe even mad at you

What ur preferred pronouns say about u

She/her - you’re valid

He/him - you’re valid

They/them - you’re valid

Neopronouns - you’re valid

Can we please stop with the “being bi is liking all women and three men” stereotypes? You guys try so hard to emphasize that bisexuality isn’t JUST 50/50 but create posts that are just as harmful. As a bisexual who prefers guys, seeing posts like that makes me doubt my sexuality and sends me down another loop of “what if I’m straight and I’m faking it for attention”. Altough I usually come back to bi, the period of questioning because of an instagram post is really stressful for me, and I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels like this.

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Enjoy!

Also if blogs like @posi-pan would share this, it would mean a great deal to me!