That “loss” Was A Blessing In Disguise.

You've been diagnosed with jack of all trades disorder! Good luck finding a career you're supposed to hold for the rest of your life!

Honestly, everything makes so much more sense after finding out that object permanence also relates to people.

If I don’t talk to, see or hear someone, I forget they exist. And by forget, I mean they cease to exist. I can live/be in the same house as this person, but my brain just erases them from my mind.

It’s even worse if I can’t see or talk to them in person at all for whatever reason, because I forget they exist. I can go for months with no contact with a person because my brain just erases them. This has made multiple friendships of mine breakdown since they often thought I was no longer interested in being friends and was ignoring them.

How to figure out the lesson in situations:

1. Identity the pattern. Think about the situations and people who have made you feel this way or brought you a specific outcome.

Are these relationships leaving you feeling the same way (undervalued, overwhelmed, or hurt)?

What character traits are you seeing (unavailability, neediness, or dishonesty)? Are you choosing people because of specific character traits (they don’t have to feel inherently negative to you)?

2. Think about your reactions to all of those things. Do you tolerate bad behavior hoping it will change? Do you avoid confrontation or fail to set boundaries? Do you feel like a victim or powerless?

3. Figure out what you are avoiding. Typically the lessons come from the things we resist. Are you avoiding self respect by settling for less? Are you ignoring red flags for fear of being alone?

4. Think about how your choices or beliefs contribute to these outcomes.

For example:

Do you over-give to earn approval?

Do you ignore your intuition to avoid conflict?

5. Ask yourself:

What can this situation teach me about self worth, boundaries, or communication?

How can I grow emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?

6. Practice the lesson actively:

If the lesson is about self worth, say no to people who devalue you.

If it’s about boundaries, start expressing your needs clearly.

You’ll know you’ve learned the lesson when similar situations arise and you respond differently, breaking the cycle.

*There is always a lesson to be learned (aside from the fact that the other person is probably a horrible human being) 😚 Don’t be stubborn about it and think you’re a perfect person. It doesn’t make you less perfect, or dumb, or deserving of how people treated you. The point is for you to grow, evolve and make sure it never happens again.

i’d do anything for me. i love me.

Staying private and why it's important

People are sooo nosy, it's human nature to know what everyone is doing at all times. but you don't know what the person you're telling something to is going to do with that information, which is why it's better to stay private.

WHEN to stay private:

- plans you have in regards to your future

- how far along you are in an assignment or how well you did on something

- any ideas you have regarding business or creative assignments

WHY stay private:

- people might steal your ideas or use your words against you

- make you feel bad about your ideas or thoughts

- does not give anyone who is not close to you any unnecessary insight into your life

- protects your peace

HOW to stay private:

- think before you speak and think about who you're speaking to

- stray away from any topics regarding yourself unless necessary, people love talking about themselves

- write down your ideas or thoughts if you really wanna tell someone

no matter where you're at in your life, there's always time for things to improve. even if you feel lost, stuck or left behind, you have the time to build a life you want. you may not get back the years you've lost, but you will have many years to live contentedly. there is more than this darkness & you have the time to see what else there is, in whatever form that is for you. simply put, life is not meant to be this hard. things will get easier, softer, brighter.

you got this.

You will meet people who will teach you love in its safest and purest form.

I need such a long hug where you kinda forget whatever else is happening around you for a minute.

'God's Idea' by Da Loria Norman, 1931.

living in the age of social media makes us crave instant results, gratification and stimulation. we’re constantly racing against the clock instead of letting things flow. this makes it difficult to stay motivated on long term goals or have the patience to see it through. but despite the distractions, continue to believe in yourself and persist in your goals. everything comes when it’s ready.